Tuesday, November 11, 2008

8-a-tude!

We have been fighting with Kaitlyn for the past few weeks, ok months, about her clothing. She has to wear pink as often as possible but the child hates pants, shorts, skirts. She says, "that just isn't me." WHAT DOES THAT MEAN?? She has one pair of dark jeans and a pair of Levis that she loves BUT jeans on PE days doesn't work well. She a dresser and a closet full of skirts, leggings, jeans, work out pants.... we have tried taking away her 'privilege' to pick her own outfits (which of course is just tears), we have tried giving her 3 options, we have tried letting her pick all on her own. I make sure to point out every cute outfit I see on kids her age and nothing will get through to her. Do we have the only crazy stubborn EIGHT YEAR OLD and are we in soooo much trouble down the road? Any other suggestions?? I'm losing my mind trying to come up with options that will keep us all happy (and CALM).

Who knew parenting would be so difficult for something so silly.

5 comments:

Lolli said...

I totally understand your frustration! Sometimes we just have to choose our battles though. I think it's great when kids have the independence to know what they like and feel comfortable in. I'm with you though. I didn't think it would happen at such an early age. What I think is "cute" and what my girls think is "cute" are not always the same dang it!;) Sorry I didn't help you but thought you would like to know that you aren't alone.

Amy said...

OOOOHHHHH this is a battle that I have been fighting for a few years now and just about two weeks ago decided I was no longer going to fight it!!!!!!!!!!!!! We spend sooooo much $$$$$$ on "Taylor approved" clothes and then I go in her closet months later to find those same "approved" clothes still hanging in there with the stupid tags STILL ATTACHED! Don't get my wrong...I keep my tags on until I wear the outfit for the first time (it is such a great feeling to take tags off to get dressed!!)BUT that is beside the point! Tay finds certain outfits she likes and wears those OVER AND OVER AND OVER AND OVER AGAIN!!!! What makes me so mad about it is that I am someone who doesn't want to be seen in the same outfit twice with in 4 to 6 weeks! And here my daughter is walking out of the house in the same stupid outfit that I just saw on her last week!! So, I have decided to just not worry about it any longer. She has been told though, that she will not be getting as many clothing purchases as usual due to this problem of clothes not being worn and then she grows out of them!

What is even scarier...I remember these same arguments with my own mother when I was a "tween." I guess to answer your question...YES we are in much more trouble down the road! ;/

The Morfords said...

Okay, should I be grateful for all my boys, because they could care less about what they wear?! I still pick out all of their outfits for the week every Sunday.
The only advice that I could give you is maybe pick out two outfits, then let her choose which one she wants to wear that day. Or she could choose two, and you decide which one she'll wear. I've used this with things other than clothes and it seems to work pretty well. Hope this helps!

Anonymous said...

I have no advice because my SIX year old has the same problem! Yesterday was veterans day so I told her she could wear what ever she wanted. Unfortunately she also had a dentist appointment. She came down wearing her black and red christmas skirt from 2 years ago, a t-shirt that said "Biker girls Rule" (a hand me down from a cousin) and WHITE cowboy boots. Yous should have seen some of the looks I got when we went out in public!
GENEIL

Heather said...

LOL, sounds like you need to cut back on what you are buying her. Sometimes I cringe at what Em picks out, but I think it's better that she wears whatever she feels like rather than wanting what everyone else has, ya know?. I always suggest clothing, but make it clear that it's okay for her to say no to it. I've learned that if they don't love it, they won't wear it. Relax.... =)